Sometimes your feelings can interfere with the possibility of considering new options. Suppose we were walking in the park, and passed a busy swimming pool full of teenagers and children laughing and swimming on a hot day. As we continue walking we come across a 12-year-old sitting on a park bench. Being curious, we ask why this person is sitting there. The 12-year-old answers” I’m afraid of the water” When he says this, he not only means, “I am afraid of the water if you put me in there today”, he also means “I cannot imagine myself being in water and having pleasurable feelings”. In his experience being in water is always matched with fear and stress.
However, we are not influenced by his feeling and earlier experiences. Thus we could easily consider the possibility of tracking down an excellent swimming teacher, getting him to attend for one year or two, (which ever is necessary to master the skills) and then he would be able to go to the pool and swim and enjoy himself. But can you see, how his feelings, make it difficult for him to be aware of this possibility and limit him in his quest to have a happier life.