When using labels is important to recognize that words of exaggeration have an effect on your feelings. Exaggerating positive things can help you enjoy them more. However, exaggerating using negative words actually make you suffer more. Thus, is important not to use words like awful, terrible, horrible, intolerable, or other words conveying the same tone. Sometimes these are not said in words in the mind, but are only implied as feelings, but in either case, they do have the effect of worsening the feeling. The feelings and words you want to avoid under all circumstances are awful horrible terrible etc.
If we were hungry and asked someone to provide food and they went out and returned with a platter full of goats’ brains for us to eat, we would probably have an emotional reaction to this food. Because of my taste preferences, I would likely think this food is yucky. However, there are many people with varying food preferences in the world and some might think this food is delicious. Can you notice that the food is neither delicious nor yucky? The food is just the food and my reaction to it is based on my taste preferences. Thus, I see the food as food plus my references. It’s as if my brain was a label maker producing a label, like the word yucky, and I stick that right on the food. That other person sticks the word delicious on the food and has a different experience. Thus, we often feel about situations and events not how they actually are, but based on our labeling process. We often do this labeling process without awareness, but it certainly influences the way we experience the world.
It used to be said that the value of a country could be perceived in the way it treats the least of its citizens. I hope that this is the not the best we can do when it comes to treating our children, our elderly, our poor, our criminals, and those with mental illness. That would be sad.